What To Really Write In a Sympathy Card

on September 28, 2020

If you have a friend or family member who’s grieving, finding the right words to comfort them can be beyond tricky. While saying “I’m sorry” is a go-to when it comes to condolences, it can sometimes feel too impersonal when talking to a loved one who’s watched you ugly-cry while helping you finish off a tub of ice cream after a bad day. The same rule applies to someone you barely know (like a new co-worker or neighbor) — saying “I’m sorry” sometimes feels a little removed, like maybe you don’t really mean it even though you totally do. And then there’s the important question: What do you write in a sympathy card? If you are struggling to find the right words to say, take comfort in the fact that you are not alone. Knowing how to provide sympathy is difficult for everyone, which is why we’ve rounded up some of the best quotes and sayings about sympathy to help you truly show up for the people around you. Whether you're looking for sympathy quotes for the loss of a mother or father or if you're in need of religious sympathy sayings, you're in luck. Read on.

Sympathy quotes for loss:
  • “Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us everyday.” –Unknown
  • “As a well spent day brings happy sleep, so a life well spent brings happy death.” –Leonardo Da Vinci
  • “What is lovely never dies, But passes into other loveliness.” –Thomas Bailey Aldrich
  • “Across the years I will walk with you, in deep green forests, on shores of sand and when our time on earth is through, in heaven too, you will have my hand!” –Robert Sexton
  • “Darkness may hide the trees and the flowers from the eyes but it cannot hide love from the soul.” –Rumi
  • “No, the camera can’t steal the soul. But it can occasionally hold it hostage.” –Unknown
  • Sorrow is so easy to express and yet so hard to tell.” –Joni Mitchell
  • “May you take comfort in knowing there is one more angel above us.” –Unknown
  • “Grant but memory to us and we lose nothing by death.” –Whittier
  • “As we go through the journey of life, we must remember that the impressions we leave behind will define who and what we are. They are just as individual as the paths we have chosen to walk. So leave good impressions wherever you go.” –Dave Hedges
  • “There is no pain so great as the Memory of joy in present grief.” —Aeschylus
  • “Oh heart, if one should say to you that the soul perishes like the body, answer that the flower withers, but the seed remains. –Kahlil Gibran
  • “The Remembrance of the good done those we have loved is the only consolation when we have lost them.” –Demoustier
  • “What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” —Helen Keller
  • “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” –Mahatma Gandhi
  • “Wishing you strength for today and hope for tomorrow.” –Renee O'neill
  • “It’s hard to forget someone who gave you so much to remember. –Unknown
  • “A mother’s grief is as timeless as her love.” —Joanne Cacciatore
  • “There is something about losing your mother that is permanent and inexpressible a wound that will never quite heal.”  –Susan Wiggs
  • “When I am lonely, I think of you and all that you brought to my life. Your memory rests gently on my soul." –Cindy Adkins
  • "To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die." –Thomas Campbell
  • “Grief never ends, but it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith. It is the price of love.” – Unknown
  • “Those we love and lose are always connected by heartstrings into infinity.” –Terri Guillemets
  • “How very softly you tiptoed into our world, almost silently, only a moment you stayed. But what an imprint your footsteps have left upon our hearts.” –Dorothy Ferguson
  • “The object is not to forget, but to remember to go on.” – Unknown
  • “What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” –Helen Keller
  • “Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” –Vicki Harrison
  • “There are some who bring a light so great to the world that even after they have gone, the light remains.” – Unknown
Religious sympathy quotes:
  • “Earth hath no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal.” –Thomas Moore
  • “May He who knows your sorrow bring peace, comfort, and healing to your soul.” – Unknown 
  • “Please know that I am praying for your peace and comfort.” – Unknown 
  • "For death is no more than a turning of us over from time to eternity." – William Penn
  • "When you lose someone you love, you gain an angel you know." —Unknown
  • “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” – Matthew 5:4
  • “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” – Psalm 46:1
  • “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.” – Isaiah 43:2
Short sympathy messages:
  • “Those we have held in our arms for a little while, we hold in our hearts forever.” – Unknown
  • “I am so sorry for your loss.” – Unknown
  • “We are with you through this difficult time.” – Unknown
  • “May the sorrow you feel in your heart lighten by the love that surrounds you.” – Unknown
  • “Hoping you feel surrounded by much love.” –Unknown
  • “Sending you my love and comfort. Deepest sympathies for your loss” – Unknown
  • “May loving memories ease your loss and bring you comfort.” – Unknown
  • “Gone but not forgotten.” – Unknown
  • "In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.” –Abraham Lincoln
  • "It is not length of life, but depth of life." – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • “Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” – Unknown
Comforting sympathy quotes:
  • “Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.” – Eskimo Proverb
  • “The sun, the moon, the wind, the stars, will forever be around, reminding you of the love you shared, and the peace she’s finally found.” – Unknown
  • "I know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. They continue to participate in every act, thought and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their love." – Leo Buscaglia
  • "There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart." – Mahatma Gandhi
  • “A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again.” – Maya Angelou
  • “May love be what you remember most.” – Darcie Sims
  • “When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.” – Unknown
  • “May you find comfort in loving memories, strength in the support of those who care, and hope in each new day.” – Unknown